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Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing: A Memoir

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Matthew Perry

8 Hours 49 Minutes

Macmillan Audio

November 2022

Audio Book Summary

'Going into his 'why,' Perry's audiobook is a fascinating listen.'- AudioFile

This program is read by the author.


The beloved star of Friends takes us behind the scenes of the hit sitcom and his struggles with addiction in this candid, funny, and revelatory memoir that delivers a powerful message of hope and persistence.

“Hi, my name is Matthew, although you may know me by another name. My friends call me Matty. And I should be dead.”

So begins the riveting story of acclaimed actor Matthew Perry, taking us along on his journey from childhood ambition to fame to addiction and recovery in the aftermath of a life-threatening health scare. Before the frequent hospital visits and stints in rehab, there was five-year-old Matthew, who traveled from Montreal to Los Angeles, shuffling between his separated parents; fourteen-year-old Matthew, who was a nationally ranked tennis star in Canada; twenty-four-year-old Matthew, who nabbed a coveted role as a lead cast member on the talked-about pilot then called Friends Like Us. . . and so much more.

In an extraordinary story that only he could tell—and in the heartfelt, hilarious, and warmly familiar way only he could tell it—Matthew Perry lays bare the fractured family that raised him (and also left him to his own devices), the desire for recognition that drove him to fame, and the void inside him that could not be filled even by his greatest dreams coming true. But he also details the peace he’s found in sobriety and how he feels about the ubiquity of Friends, sharing stories about his castmates and other stars he met along the way. Frank, self-aware, and with his trademark humor, Perry vividly depicts his lifelong battle with addiction and what fueled it despite seemingly having it all.

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing is an unforgettable memoir that is both intimate and eye-opening—as well as a hand extended to anyone struggling with sobriety. Unflinchingly honest, moving, and uproariously funny, this is the audiobook fans have been waiting for.

A Macmillan Audio production from Flatiron Books.

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  • Anonymous

    Loved it from start to finish.

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  • Anonymous

    Wanted to like this. Wanted to see this as a story for those struggling. It's not. It's mean and it's lacking in personal responsibility. the Keanu Can I get my money back for a book that sucks?

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  • Perkibest22

    This was more a story about addiction than the TV show Friends. I was engrossed in the story until the last hour or so when he repeated the same thing over and over again. Eh.

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  • Laurie T.

    Guttural. As a 20 year old that watched the pilot of Friends in 1994 and cried like a baby on the last episode, I was devoted to the entire cast. I too played the game, “Which ‘Friend’ would you want?” Answer: “Chandler.” I knew I wanted to hear what Matthew Perry had to say, but I’m the release of the book already started to get an inside idea. I knew through the press years ago that he had some challenges and left it there. Be careful meeting your hero’s, part of my take away. Matthew made choices I can not comprehend. I also can not imagine the pain he must have felt in his mind. If this book is a giant thank you to the hundreds of people who helped him over decades, it probably still isn’t enough. Does this book bring another magnifying glass to mental health, I hope so to those that listen. For me, I had to take this in 30-45 mins doses because I found it to be so painful and at times a little irritating. His story is his and his life has been very much a challenge. His gift is greater than his demons, I hope.

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  • Anonymous

    This guy has huge ego. Sad he trash all rehabs his close friends leave him because he so selfish. The part that really took the cake. A very close friend who saved his life many times opened up rehab and Matt gave him 500 thousand - less that a weeks work. Pay at Friends. When the rehab did not do well— he asked for his money back. WTF. Needless to say all his friends abandoned him. He’s very ungrateful spoiled self centered He brags he helped people- but no stories to back it up. He to busy talking about how wonderful he is. I like watching him on friends but his life story is cycle selfishness big ego. I ended dislike him as a person Big time. Shame on you Matt- any person trying get sober would be so discouraged by the way you trash ALL rehabs

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  • Kevin C.

    I too struggle with demons...while listening too Matty tell of his demons ...I was moved too tears for the pain and struggles he has survived...Keep working the Steps

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  • Justin B.

    A sad but inspiring listen. Opened by eyes to the disease of addiction. I hope 'matty' is able to stay clean and sober.

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  • Tina D.

    He is a great narrator! His comical delivery and charm are based on self loathing and is very well timed. I listened to this almost non stop. I had to take breaks to shake my head but very quick read. On a personal note, I find him to be a spoiled brat. I still don’t know what his mother did so wrong??? The life he felt he deserved is one that he should have given himself, not submerge into addiction because it wasn’t aligned perfectly. Holly-weird as they say…. Sigh. Love listening though. I’m very happy he is well!

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  • Empress Lulu

    I loved it. As someone who grew up watching Friends, it was amazing to me that we have no clue sometimes the struggles that are happening behind the scenes of anyone. It makes me realize we need to be kinder in this world and check in on everyone we love. We never know the back side to anyone or the demons they struggle with on a daily basis.

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  • Anonymous

    Great book and insight into his troubled life

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